Monday, January 30, 2012

mourning the loss of my wedding ring



If you know me well, you know I love my wedding ring. LOVE it. You see, when Christian and I were talking about getting married, I had all kinds of ideas about what kind of wedding ring I wanted. I'm a simple kind of girl, so I had my eye on a few simple styles. One day Christian called and said he had found a ring he thought I'd like. (He knows I'm a practical person who wouldn't want to be surprised with a wedding ring I'd never seen.) Actually, he was out with Veronica, Kristen, and Lenessa, and I think they actually saw it first. He described it on the phone and it didn't sound like anything I'd been looking at, but I figured I'd take a look anyway.

The minute I saw the ring in person I loved it. It was perfect for me. I don't believe in love at first sight in general, but I believe in it when it comes to this ring.

For the last 8 years, I've loved it. I've had many-a-conversation about how I would never get a "ring upgrade." Christian periodically makes teasing comments about how I wanted a bigger ring (in fact, he said it again just the other night), but I always scowl at him and tell him not to diss my ring. I love my ring.

And now we can't find it. And I'm sad.

It has been missing for over a month now. Last time I saw it was at my parents' house for Christmas, and I distinctly remember looking at it hanging on the bedside lamp while I was getting our stuff ready to go home and thinking, "I need to put that on." Only that's where my memory fails. I can't remember if I actually put it on in that moment or didn't. And I haven't seen it since.

Do you know what? You know that whole "ring upgrade" thing? Well this is the moment of truth.

And the verdict is in. If I never find my ring, I want to replace it with...


...an exact copy.



19 comments:

nicole said...

:( that is not fun.

LJ, DC and ML said...

Oh no! I love your ring. I hope it shows up. It is a beautiful ring.

Carbonneau said...

it IS a beautiful ring! I had always said the same about never replacing mine. I have had the worst luck with mine! We have had to replace it twice!! I hope you are able to find your original, and if not, get one just like it!!

Ashley said...

Oh no! I didn't know it was missing. That is so so sad. It will turn up someday--just hopefully not after you've replaced it! (Remember when your Mom's ring was missing?)

Molly said...

Thanks, guys. It's nice to have someone else be sad about my ring with me. Misery loves company. :) I keep thinking it's going to show up somewhere!

Kati--Twice?? I can't believe you've lost yours twice!

Julie Laughlin said...

So sorry that you lost it!

My mom lost her wedding ring when she was pregnant with me. (My dad was really upset!). They concluded that it must have gone down the toilet or something because they couldn't find it. Years later, they replaced it with a new (different) one but with less diamonds because now they had 2 kids to support! Fast forward about 10 years later.... We got my mom a new jewelry box for Christmas. We were all excited to take her jewelry out and put it in the new one. We took everything out and realized that something was rattling inside the jewelry box but we couldn't get it out. My dad had to crack it open with a hammer and out fell my mom's original wedding ring. She cried and cried!

A couple of years after that they took both wedding rings (old and current) to a jeweler for their anniversary and had all of the diamonds used to make 1 new setting of my mom's choice. And that's the one she wears now. :)

The point of that was, that there is still hope. 10+ years from now, it might turn up. ;) You never know! But I hope you do find it!

Tamra said...

Oh, I hope you find it!

Rob and I both lost our rings - matching bands - at different times, and replaced them with as close a match to the originals as we could find. We love them, why would we upgrade?!

Courtney said...

Nooo!!! This is one of my biggest nightmares! I have had a few scares over the years, and have left it at my parents house for months (literally) at a time, but am totally astonished that I have managed not to lose it yet. I will be praying that yours makes a safe return to you!

ps - you should ask my mom how she almost lost hers next time you see her.

The Bundys said...

My mom lost her diamond out of her ring and found it years later on the floor. Hopefully you will find it.

Kerri said...

oh sad. And of all my friends, sisters, and other women in my life...YOUR ring is the ONLY one that I can remember. I mourn the loss to. Do you remember I have the opposite problem? I put mine ON one day in March, and haven't been able to get it off since. Which, I suppose is a better problem than losing it completely.

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Carbonneau said...

well...I didn't want it to sound like we bought some cheap ring...but the ring just broke twice! I didn't actually lose them at all. The first one, the center diamond came out on a day trip hiking in Flagstaff...no clue when, just noticed it gone. so the company replaced it (no longer the original). Then on the second one, the band broke! I had let my insurance lapse (buy insurance for life! not some 2 yr plan that you cant renew one poor year). I wore just my plain wedding band for a year before we traded the ring in (gold had gone up so we got the same amount for the ring that he had originally paid!!) and I got an upgrade. :) The ring is VERY similar to the one I had before, but not the same :( and we went with a company that offered a lifetime warranty as long as you get check ups. so far so good!

Julia Wade said...

I have always loved your ring. Always. So so sorry it's lost ... :(

Emma and Dan said...

It is a beautiful ring. I'm sure it will turn up.
My dad lost his wedding band once in the back yard in October and they found it in the front yard in April. My mom thinks it got moved around with a leaf pile.

Emma and Dan said...

It is a beautiful ring. I'm sure it will turn up.
My dad lost his wedding band once in the back yard in October and they found it in the front yard in April. My mom thinks it got moved around with a leaf pile.

The Mostess said...

Oh no! Let's hope it's like the retainer I stole from my sister. It ended up in a neighbor's lawn, and I returned it weeks later--unwashed.

Em said...

I'm with you on being attached to your ring. When you find the right one, that's it. No need for an upgrade. I hope you find yours! I seriously think you will because...well, I just do. You and your ring were meant to be.

...And regarding your comment on my blog: my MIL utilizes her bread machine the same way you do and swears by it. I've never tried it, but I really should figure it out. And regarding grocery costs--it is INSANE how much we spend on food! (Especially on essential healthy food like produce and milk). My friend sent me some info on couponing. I've never been into it but may start. Let me know if you want me to forward what she sent to you. She's very practical and isn't one of those 100 bottles of ketchup for a $1 kind of couponers. :)

Jeffry Pullam said...

Poor thing! =( Were you able to find it? A few months ago, I almost lost my wedding band too, and it was a very sad time for me. Thank goodness, my husband found it, and from then on, I never removed it.

Diamond Rings UK said...

Sorry to know that you lost your wedding ring. It was such a lovely piece. Hope you will find a replica of it.