I'm a people pleaser. It's true. I always have been. It's just my personality. I have a hard time saying things that will offend people.
Although I'd rather not, I'm working on my this, mainly because I think there are some things that people need to hear. Even saying that is hard for me to say. Members of my own family will even tell me that I need to stick up for myself more (mostly in response to other family members). I'm getting better at it. That's not to say I never stick up for myself. I have strong opinions on things, and I'll voice my opinion, but I also strongly believe that everyone is entitled to their opinions whether or not they line up with mine. I think that it's possible to voice my opinion without offending people, and I hope I'm somewhat successful at it.
Recently I took a personality test. It's crazy how accurate those things can be. The results confirmed to me what I already knew about myself: I worry about how other people feel and want everyone to be happy. This also means that I'm very sensitive when I find myself offended by what others have said. They say this is actually what contributes to me being overly sensitive to others' needs. I've also learned that when I do put my foot down, I often feel bad afterward, wondering how the other person is feeling and wondering if I should have put my foot down like I did.
Not to mention I'm often so accommodating that I hold it in, and hold it in, and hold it in until I explode. Not a good thing. I'm definitely working on that.
It's an interesting personality type. And I know I'm not alone in this. Some people might think it's silly, but I like being this way. I like being sensitive. I like worrying about how other people feel. I'd much rather be perceived that way than as someone who constantly offends.
So to my family, my husband, my "borrowed" teenagers, my friends... and to those whom I have offended, know that I always feel bad afterward. Even if I still know it needed to be said.
Ha! This sounds like I'm apologizing for having just done something bad. Nope. Just letting thoughts ramble out of my head. All's well in Mollyville.
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