Since we're on the topic of Valentine's Day, I need some dating advice. No, not for me. I'm luckily past that stage (and never want to return to it). The advice is for a friend. And I thought all of you out there would have some helpful advice.
Here's the situation.
My friend (let's call her Sadie) seems to attract wierd guys. Ok, they seem normal at first. But then she realizes they are a little off. You all know the type. So they start as friends. All is well. But then they guys starts to show interest. And she does her best to show non-interest while still maintaining the friendship. Sadie is a nice girl who doesn't believe in dropping off the face of the planet just because a guy friend starts to show interest in her.
So there are two guys who currently fall into this category. She tries to give signs that she's not interested. But they just don't get it. So then she flat out tells them she isn't interested. They say they understand. But then they're right back at it. She tells them again--this time saying that she will never be interested in anything more than friends. It doesn't sink in.
It gets more complicated. Both guys have shown interest in the church and have come to church or church activities with her on various occasions. But she can't tell if they are coming to church for the spiritual/social aspect or just to wiggle into her world through her church. Should she kindle their "interest" in the church? Will that just make it worse?
Another monkey wrench. Both guys lack great social skills. They don't have many friends. Sadie is one of their friends. If she drops them completely, she feels like they won't have any friends at all.
They are nice guys, but a little wierd and incredibly dense (or stubborn) about the fact that she isn't interested in anything more than friendship.
So we need our readers' opinions. What would you do? What did you do in the past? What should Sadie do? How the heck do you get through the thick skulls of guys like these?
I know what my advice is, but I want to see yours...
3 years ago