Monday, March 31, 2014

I believe in family. In all shapes and sizes.

Yesterday I taught a lesson at church on family. I teach the children at church, and I love them. Even the sassy ones.

During my lesson I shared with the children that I firmly believe in families. I believe families ARE central to God's plan. We talked about the fact that each of our families look different. And that no matter what our family looks like, in a family is where we best learn how to follow the teachings of Christ (ahem, or the Dalai Lama or Confucius or Muhammad or the Golden Rule): love, patience, service, kindness, forgiveness, joy, how to face the hardships of life. The list could go on.

What I didn't share (because I respect that a good majority of people at my church don't take their kids to our primary to learn this, sadly) is that I strongly believe in families of ALL shapes, sizes, colors, orientations. One mom and one dad. Single parent. No kids. Many kids. Blended families. Adopted families. Foster families. Two moms. Two dads. Straight children. Gay children.

Have you ever noticed that you are more sensitive to things your family says than things your friends say? Snide comments from family members cut more than from friends and acquaintances. Family members know you from the moment of you or they join the family. You are connected from the beginning. They are those who know you inside and out. Or they don't and you really think they should by now. And it hurts doubly when they misinterpret you.

There is something more to family relationships. I believe that for this reason the family is the place where we can most intensely learn to love. To be kind. To have patience. To stand up for ourselves and to stand up for others. To forgive.

A family isn't important because it looks a certain way. A family is important because it may just be the most effective environment to raise humans in all their potential.

So I stand for, believe in, encourage families. All of them.

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

does anyone read blogs anymore?

Social media has taken over my life. But not all in a bad way. Yes, there are times when I am just procrastinating and wasting my time on social media, but for the most part it is enriching my life.

Facebook: A couple of private Facebook groups developed quite organically and I have found myself part of wonderful intellectual conversations with people I admire. None of that Facebook-drama-ridiculous-let's-prove-who-knows-more-about-a-topic-but-refuse-to-see-the-other-side stuff. Ugh. I can't stand those "conversations." While I would love to not be glued to my phone or computer, I do love that my time is being filled with learning and growing with like-minded people. (And by like-minded I don't mean that we see eye to eye, rather we are open to each others' ideas.) The down side to this is that every-day small talk is becoming incredibly boring to me. Do-able and enjoy-able, but second to such rich conversation.

Instagram: Oh, Instagram. How I love thee. Pictures of my favorite people and glimpses into their every-day lives? Yes, please! The key to Instagram is unfollowing and re-following people on a regular basis. I periodically go through the list of people following me and switch it up. That way I don't have too many pictures coming in all the time. I highly recommend this.

Pinterest: I am very much NOT addicted to Pinterest. Quite the opposite. I unfollow most people on Pinterest. Sorry, guys. I'm not interested in your food pins or your holiday pins or your house decor pins. I'm interested in YOU, but not necessarily the stuff you're interested in. And I expect this in return. I really don't expect you to follow my upholstery board. Why in the world would anyone not interested in upholstery want that to show up in their feed? Unfollow, people. Unfollow. Pinterest isn't much of a "social" media for me. I really follow a small number of boards, many of whose pinners I don't know. For me it's simply an idea board that I check periodically. Besides, most of Pinterest annoys me. Who in the world has time to be all adorable and crafty with every aspect of their lives? I'd rather pull out my hair.

Is social media sucking the life out of you or enriching your life?

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

lunch today

Lunch for the boys today:

saltine crackers and cheese
nacho doritos, BBQ ruffles, stale cheetos mixed in a bowl
leftover pancakes
peanut butter (not on the pancakes. just a glob on the plate. eating it with forks.)

Liam is licking something off the table. No idea what.

Mom of the year award today.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

RIP, Herbie.

Rest in peace, Herbie. It was a good 5 1/2 years. You will be missed. Really, you will. Sorry about that year we kept you in the garage. And that time we lost you after gluing a Santa hat on your shell. And that time we thought you were dead and almost threw you away, but realized you were just molting. And the next time we did that.

You were an awesome pet.

Oh, and thanks for peeing on that one missionary who kept flipping you over. He deserved it.

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

love is love

Here I am. 5 years later. Saying the same thing I said just over 5 years ago. It has been a long, annoying battle, and it's nowhere near over. Why would I consider this a long, annoying battle for myself? I'm married. I'm straight. This doesn't actually affect what I can do or not do. I'll give you two reasons: 1) I care about the people around me; 2) when the church you love and the conscience you trust say two different things, you have to dig deep to figure out which way you'll go. This has not been a fun process for me personally. But here I am 5 years later saying it again. Love is love. To all my friends out there who have been waiting for this day, here it is again. Let's hope it sticks this time.

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

things i tell myself in my head

Do you talk to yourself? Okay, don't tell me that you talk to yourself out loud. That kind of weirds me out. Sorry. I know it shouldn't, but it does. Now I think you're creepy.

Anyway, do you talk to yourself in your head? I often find myself laughing at the things I say to myself. The things I actually "say" to myself are normally motivational (i.e. a kick in the pants to do what I'm supposed to be doing at that moment). I'm quite stern with myself. For example, here are some things I caught myself saying today and yesterday:

"Only two hours of work left. You got this, Molly. You got this."

"Seriously. Focus."

"Make the freaking cookies already!"

Granted, the majority of the words going through my head today consisted of Commander D and Big Fat W. boy D, commander D, the well-known D... (Kudos to you if you know what I'm talking about.) It's a rough life.

Oh, then there's running. I'm not sure thoughts even go through my head at all while I'm running. I do NOT sort out life's problems while running. Nothing goes through my head. Nothing. Ask me to do simple math calculations while running and I will prove to you that my brain shuts down when I run.

So tell me: Do you spend your time pondering existential topics or giving yourself motivational speeches about focusing? Please tell me it's the latter and I'm not alone on this.

Monday, March 4, 2013

one year since the leap: Google farewell

I really can't believe it has been a year since I posted about taking a leap into what we hoped would be two wonderful opportunities. It seemed so scary at the time, but it turned out to be a great decision.

This past Friday marked the last day of Christian's contract position at Google*. From what I hear, his team honored him by dressing up (a fitting farewell for the ever-fashionable, bowtie-wearing Christian).

Although I know he is sad to leave his team, I know he had a blast this past year: memes only his team would find funny, rainbow birthday cakes, searching the area for every red bull flavor available, handing out microwave popcorn to strangers, decorating the office for every holiday (and then some), mystery cafe tours, trips to the city, growing a ridiculously amazing mustache. I could go on and on. (Don't get me wrong--he actually worked this past year. This was just the frosting on the cake.)

So now it's time to move on to new adventures. We'll just have to trust that cape until we find out what the next adventure will be, but if it's anything like this adventure, we'll take it.

I love you, Christian! Glad you had a great year at Google! I'll leave you with these lovely videos. :)

(PS--I stole most of these photos from coworkers' Facebook pages. I hope that's okay!)

*A common question from friends and family is if Christian's contract can be extended. Unfortunately, Google mandates a one-year max for contract employees and a 90-day layoff period before contractors can be hired on again.